Restraining the ego and leaving doors unopened: a note about crushes,...
Below this post on student crushes, a reader named “P” describes her crush on one of her (married) professors. I’ll quote a section that has me thinking this morning: I was interested in your advice...
View ArticleAnother in the student crushes series: the “daddy crush” and the need for a...
I’ve written a few times about student crushes and their meaning, starting with this post that still gets loads and loads of hits from search engines. My basic thesis: There’s an old axiom in pop...
View ArticleMore on the erotics of teaching: a response to William Deresiewicz
Several people (three counts as several in my book) sent me links this past week to this William Deresiewicz article in the American Scholar: Love On Campus. It’s an interesting and lengthy rumination...
View Article“The rights of desire”: a professor-student romance makes the local news
This story popped up on my radar screen today: Professor, ex-student tie the knot. Muata Kamdibe and Crystal Domingues aren’t looking for anyone’s stamp of approval – not from their resistant families,...
View Article“How do you desexualize that?”: on the erotics of teaching, and learning to...
A reader named Anna kindly sends me a link to this story that ran in the Times (UK) Higher Education Supplement last month: Sex and the university. It deals with an old and familiar subject, that of...
View ArticleAsking out Dr. “desperately hot”: a note on students pursuing former professors
One of my former students has now transferred on to a large university elsewhere in the state. A 22 year-old junior, she took a class this past quarter with what she describes as a “desperately hot” 30...
View ArticleBeing passionately interested without arousing interest: more on crushes,...
It’s one of those very hectic mornings. I’m tired of discussing Sarah Palin and the merits of the other various candidates for president. (I might feel rejuvenated within 48 hours — it’s entirely...
View Article“Would you like to have dinner with me?”: a note on a new sci-fi anthology,...
No time for a longer post, but my reader Sumana sends me a note about a new free, online fantasy/sci-fi anthology which she has co-edited: ThoughtCrime Experiments. She suggested I take a look at one...
View ArticleFlirtation, adultery, student-teacher boundaries — again!
I get a fair number of emails from college students, almost always young women, who found this blog after having googled the phrase “student crushes”. I reposted the piece that I did on Tuesday after...
View Article“Show me this person not as I see them, but as you see them”
Robin wrote to thank me for this morning’s post. While she continues to wrestle with what direction to take with this young man she’s tutoring, she asked this: It’s not like crushes are always based on...
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